Let’s face it, it will be a lot less scary to talk to me about a hearing a month from now than to walk into court without a lawyer.
The Colorado legal system doesn’t show up in the national news very often. Unfortunately, on recent occasions, CNN has had something to say about our judicial branch. In particular, two judges have resigned in the last year.
If there are concerns about a parent’s care of a child, or extreme conflict between the parents, the Court can appoint a Child and Family Investigator, or “CFI.”
Once joint decision making is established, it is very difficult to undo, and in the meantime, you may be opening the door to ongoing conflicts.
Not so long ago, spousal maintenance – what we used to call alimony – could be ordered by the Court on a permanent basis.
The Court generally requires parties to mediate before going to a hearing. This means that even if you’re sure your case won’t settle, you should make a good faith effort in mediation.
It’s common for kids to have behavior issues before or after transitions. You may see some more pushing boundaries than usual, or some sadness or acting out. It’s the parents’ job to not exacerbate those issues.
“Divorces are emotional for you and the ones that love you. A third party that knows the court process will help temper down swift reactions. He can also draft your messages in a more neutral tone. He/She can convey positions that could be difficult to assume by you.”